Bryden, 26-year-old war veteran, surprised Bachelorette Desiree Hartsock by revealing he wasn’t feeling a connection and didn’t want to remain in the competition. Not only did he tell her this after he took the trip to Germany, but he decided to interrupt her 1-on-1 date to tell her.

“It’s just a bummer if you know you knew this before,” Desiree told him after he said he wanted to leave immediately.